Valentine's Day, 2012
To celebrate Validation Day, this week I've turned the steering wheel over to Written Word, Spoken Word first-responder Amanda Carron of Desloge, MO, and a few of her favorite and fabulous friends.
Much as I'd like to share in the credit I can hardly term this stunning guest-post a collaboration, as Amanda has performed 100% of the creative work—text and portraiture—for which I am forever grateful.
In the spirit of the openness Amanda lives and breathes, I avow as I've only had one rather limited sexual encounter with a woman, so I'm not sure where exactly I'll fit in the nomenclature of the Gay/Straight Alliance we're hoping to form (probably straddling one of the vowels somewhere to the right side of the slash). It is my experience that most people are not strictly one label or the other, at least in their daydreams and fantasies, whether or not they have the courage to overcome their prejudices and inhibitions and act on their desires.
But there is no doubt about it, we are making history here in St. Francois County just by being our incredibly sexy, rural Missouri selves. Yet another story you won't see in the Park Hills Journal. Doesn't get better than this. Enjoy!
There is a big closet in the Mineral Area and, whether
open or discreetly private about your sexuality, you are expected to reside in
it. Don’t be too “in your face” about your preferences and no one will have a
problem with you. I don’t know how many times I have heard that particular
phrase, in some form or other.
There is a very prevalent, “not in my backyard”
conformist attitude, even though everyone knows someone with different tastes,
be it gay or lesbian, transgendered, bisexual,
even something as banal and harmless as cross dressing heterosexuals or
S&M participants. We all have a little kink in our corset, admit it or not.
So why is it so bad, this open self-expression? Why is it such a taboo that
young people have moved out of the area and away from their homes just to be
themselves?
I am disappointed in my community for frowning on boys that hold
hands in Wal-Mart. These are our sons, our brothers, our dads! Some have gone
as far as committing suicide to end the suffering at the hands of uptight, judgmental
haters? This needs to end. We need to live and let live.
"There are stories to be told, but they may not be
the ones you think they are." This may be the statement that started the
whole thing. Frances inquired about the gay community or lack thereof in St.
Francois County and the surrounding area, prompting this response.
Our
discussion ranged from discrimination to dating habits and it brought us around
to one conclusion. We need a better sense of community. I want to embark on a project that will help to initiate
just such a thing.
There are so many members of the LGBT community in this
area. (For those of you possibly unfamiliar with the vernacular, LGBT stands
for lesbian, bi, gay and transgendered.)
It would be wonderful to band together.
Ideally, in the utopia of my
mind, I envision a gay/ straight alliance, a gay community center, and
eventually a Pride fest in the SFC and surrounding area. We can only
benefit from joining like minds together for a central purpose of community. So how does one go about addressing these
issues?
To begin you would need a group of people with a desire for similar
purposes to gather and discuss the basics. I would love to hold mixers to get
to know who our "family" is and meet new people. We need involvement!
We need people to get passionate about their community and break out of their
comfort zone.
There was a small chapter of PFLAG in Farmington. There
may still be, and I am just as guilty as anyone else, but I never attended
meetings. I had kids and a family, work and school. I let everything else take
precedence, and look where I am. No closer to being able to marry my girlfriend
than I was 5 years ago, no closer to knowing all of my friends are safe to walk
the street holding hands with their significant other without reprisal.
I am
disappointed in myself and the lackadaisical attitude and complacency I have
adopted. I let myself get comfortable and accepting of the closed-minded
situation. But if we want change we have to take up the torch, we need to get
off the couch, and rally around each other. If we want our local community to
accept us openly, we need to be more open. They need to see us as unashamed;
otherwise their idea that our alternative lifestyle is bad will continue to be
perpetuated.
We need to establish a gay community in the Mineral Area. There
are so many other good things that can come of this. We need to foster
creativity and self- expression without fear of repercussions. We need a
resource for commonality. We need to kick the door off this closet and make it
ok to come out.
If anyone is interested in attending a meeting to discuss
forming a committee for a gay/straight alliance in our area, please email me at
change.sfc@live.com .
Oh Frances! Thank you so much for affording me the opportunity to be heard. (...and seen!) I owe you my friend!
ReplyDeleteRock on! I wish you all much success and support you in solidarity online!
ReplyDeleteSo surreal that we STILL need pioneers in 2012. But you are one. And I am thankful.
ReplyDeleteThank you all for your participation. This post makes me kvell (Yiddish for beam with pride and pleasure!) every time I look at it, and I can't stop looking at it.
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